It seems like nowadays less and less people trust their partners. With all the new technology coming out to make it easier to check up on your partner and harder for them to detect you doing it then that seems to be too much temptation for some people.
For example, if you were suspicious enough to look on your partner’s cellphone then you could very simply run a reverse cell phone lookup on the numbers using one of the many websites that provides that service. This means you’d have a window into their personal calls and see who they are regularly contacting and then you’ll know whether being suspicious was warranted.
Then there is the internet, it is so simple to take a look at the browsing history on the computer and see what kind of sites they have been on, you can even see what they’ve been typing in to Google etc if the option is checked in your internet explorer (mine are as it makes doing repeat searches easier). With a little bit of knowledge then someone can clear the surfing history though – then you really do get suspicions arising in your mind.
This simple act can cause so much trouble, for instance let’s say that a boyfriend is looking for a ring for his partner to ask for her hand in marriage in some over-the-top romantic setting or gesture. He is more than likely going to go online and search for some inspiration of how to propose in the most romantic way and to look for rings etc. Now if the girlfriend snoops around and he hasn’t cleared the history then she will know what he is up to.
Now if he is thorough and he clears the history but doesn’t let her know then she will be immediately suspicious and probably a lot of fights and upset will be caused by this. Then if he clears the history but tells her he is planning a surprise for her so he needs to do it, then that will solve a lot of the problems, but then she is expecting something!
That may not seem bad, but imagine now if he asks her to accompany him to somewhere they don’t usually go, or do something they don’t usually do, she will then start to think and expect that to be the surprise. So instead of a heart-warming complete surprise, she’ll be constantly on the lookout and she’ll be expecting it, so then it ruins half the surprise!
If you have any suspicions then bring them out into the open, so at least your partner can explain themselves and maybe put your mind at rest. I also think you should both have unique logons to a single computer, so you cannot snoop on each other’s browsing history – then you’ll get much better surprise birthday presents and proposals etc!
Take some time out to explore some fun date ideas so you and your partner can spend some quality time together and build your trust back up.
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