According to the ads on Television if you really wanted to make your lover weak at the knees and guarantee her/his love, just buy them some jewelry. Something with diamonds should do the trick.
But how romantic is whipping out the credit card? Can’t we as men be just a little more creative? Worse, a recent press release from the makers of Romantic Valentines Day cards says that over 80% of them are bought by women. Doesn’t that say just how unromantic men are when we can’t even be bothered to buy a simple card expressing our love to the single most important person in our lives?
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The problem can be largely traced to how the sexes look at romance differently. Ask a man about romance and one of the top responses will be about sex, getting sex, getting hot sex, etc, etc, etc.
Women on the other hand, consider sex as the icing on the cake but certainly not the whole cake.
Few men understand that so they end up doing what the ads in magazines and on television tell them. Buying candy or jewelry. Worse, maybe even sexy lingerie.
So what’s a 21st century man to do about these differences? Can men crack the mysterious code of a womens sense of romance?
The answer is yes, we can. The truth is that women are always giving us clues about what makes them happy. Most of the time men are just too involved in our own world to notice.
Creative Valentine Gift Ideas For The Girls
Valentines Day is the perfect day to pull our collective heads out of the ooze and dazzle the women in our lives. The good news, is that women on average, are so used to men being unromantic that even if a man tries he could very well make this the most memorable Valentines Day you’ve ever had together.
So as they say, lets get down to brass tacks. What does a man need to do to romance his lover?
Start by finding a quiet corner and using your head for more than something to hold your ears. Think about how you feel when the two of you are together. Think about all the things that special someone has done for you, with you. All the good times you’ve had together. The future you’re planning together.
Even think about the bad times when it seemed like they were the only one in the whole world that was on your side or really understood you. Think about who helps you when you are sad or sick.
If you are starting to grin a little, maybe even getting a little lump in your throat, you probably one of the lucky ones with a truly special relationship.
So now what? I apologize for this gross oversimplification but, in broad strokes, men are results oriented and women tend to be more appreciative of the process. Think about it before you e-mail me a nasty note.
Men want to do the dinner, the flowers and be done. To use a sports analogy, what a man needs to do is get a bunch of base hits rather rely on one big home run.
So here are the Women Valentine Gift suggestions.
- Start with a single red rose on the bed and a short note where you try to express a little about how you feel about her.
- Plan the day around making it special for her.
- Try to think about activities that she enjoys doing together with you. It doesn’t matter if you enjoy it or not, it’s about her. It can be biking, skating, hiking or even going to the flea market.
- Let her know that you have a special plan for dinner, just don’t tell her. Let her know that is going to be something special and let the anticipation grow.
- If she enjoys it, maybe a massage and some time at a salon for hair and nails. Be careful planning this. It is a very individual thing that she may not like and you might want to skip.
- Take her someplace special. One idea is to recreate your first date. The place, the food.
- If the first date wasn’t that spectacular, you might start there, then tell her you would like to take her someplace more special because she is such an important part of your life. Dinner and theater or a movie, maybe dancing. Just make sure that it is something that she will like.
- Think about ending up at a nice hotel. Plan ahead and have rose petals on the floor and bed. If you are married, carry her across the threshold again. The great thing about a hotel room is that neither of you has to clean it in the morning. You can have a long luxurious breakfast in bed.
- Most importantly, don’t expect sex. If it happens great, but at the very least spend a lot of time cuddling and talking. If you do have sex, make it about her, pleasing her every way you can.
If you’re lucky, very lucky, you just might realize how important this women is in your life and bring a little Valentines Day into every day from now on.
You can check out more ideas from Bob Current at http://www.thingstodoforvalentinesday.info
