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Valentines Day Gifts For Women

Creative Valentine Gift Ideas For Girls

by painterlady

Valentine Gift Idea for Girls According to the ads on Television if you really wanted to make your lover weak at the knees and guarantee her/his love, just buy them some jewelry. Something with diamonds should do the trick.

But how romantic is whipping out the credit card? Can’t we as men be just a little more creative? Worse, a recent press release from the makers of Romantic Valentines Day cards says that over 80% of them are bought by women. Doesn’t that say just how unromantic men are when we can’t even be bothered to buy a simple card expressing our love to the single most important person in our lives?

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The problem can be largely traced to how the sexes look at romance differently. Ask a man about romance and one of the top responses will be about sex, getting sex, getting hot sex, etc, etc, etc.

Women on the other hand, consider sex as the icing on the cake but certainly not the whole cake.

Few men understand that so they end up doing what the ads in magazines and on television tell them. Buying candy or jewelry. Worse, maybe even sexy lingerie.

So what’s a 21st century man to do about these differences? Can men crack the mysterious code of a womens sense of romance?

The answer is yes, we can. The truth is that women are always giving us clues about what makes them happy. Most of the time men are just too involved in our own world to notice.

Creative Valentine Gift Ideas For The Girls

Valentines Day is the perfect day to pull our collective heads out of the ooze and dazzle the women in our lives. The good news, is that women on average, are so used to men being unromantic that even if a man tries he could very well make this the most memorable Valentines Day you’ve ever had together.

So as they say, lets get down to brass tacks. What does a man need to do to romance his lover?

Start by finding a quiet corner and using your head for more than something to hold your ears. Think about how you feel when the two of you are together. Think about all the things that special someone has done for you, with you. All the good times you’ve had together. The future you’re planning together.

Even think about the bad times when it seemed like they were the only one in the whole world that was on your side or really understood you. Think about who helps you when you are sad or sick.

If you are starting to grin a little, maybe even getting a little lump in your throat, you probably one of the lucky ones with a truly special relationship.

So now what? I apologize for this gross oversimplification but, in broad strokes, men are results oriented and women tend to be more appreciative of the process. Think about it before you e-mail me a nasty note.

Men want to do the dinner, the flowers and be done. To use a sports analogy, what a man needs to do is get a bunch of base hits rather rely on one big home run.

So here are the Women Valentine Gift suggestions.

Start with a single red rose on the bed and a short note where you try to express a little about how you feel about her.
Plan the day around making it special for her.
Try to think about activities that she enjoys doing together with you. It doesn’t matter if you enjoy it or not, it’s about her. It can be biking, skating, hiking or even going to the flea market.
Let her know that you have a special plan for dinner, just don’t tell her. Let her know that is going to be something special and let the anticipation grow.
If she enjoys it, maybe a massage and some time at a salon for hair and nails. Be careful planning this. It is a very individual thing that she may not like and you might want to skip.
Take her someplace special. One idea is to recreate your first date. The place, the food.
If the first date wasn’t that spectacular, you might start there, then tell her you would like to take her someplace more special because she is such an important part of your life. Dinner and theater or a movie, maybe dancing. Just make sure that it is something that she will like.
Think about ending up at a nice hotel. Plan ahead and have rose petals on the floor and bed. If you are married, carry her across the threshold again. The great thing about a hotel room is that neither of you has to clean it in the morning. You can have a long luxurious breakfast in bed.
Most importantly, don’t expect sex. If it happens great, but at the very least spend a lot of time cuddling and talking. If you do have sex, make it about her, pleasing her every way you can.

If you’re lucky, very lucky, you just might realize how important this women is in your life and bring a little Valentines Day into every day from now on.

You can check out more ideas from Bob Current at http://www.thingstodoforvalentinesday.info

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Thoughts On What NOT To Offer As Romantic Gifts

by Valentine Gal

It may be at the classy restaurant downtown. It may be on that first trip to an exotic destination. Or it could be in the relaxation of home. Wherever it is, you want to make sure that first gift for a romantic interest is memorable and full of loving feeling.

A unique romantic gift can be the high point of a growing relationship, when it shows a level of understanding and empathy only present between truly compatible souls. Of course, on the other hand, nothing can be worse than a gift that shows just how serious those few faults in a newfound partner are. Let’s look at four such gifts that have spoiled even the most auspicious of relationships.

Puppy.

Imagine you just finished a enjoyable dinner with the new love of your life. You are sipping on some wine when they lean across the table with a mischievous gleam in their eye.

“I have something for you.”

You hear some faint barks in the background. The wine starts to taste a little bit sour. “Umm…”

From out of the other room springs a new, lively puppy. “We can care for it together!” Even excluding the potential of allergies, don’t buy an animal on a whim without first having a sustained talk or you can bet on raising that pup as a single parent.

Plane Tickets.

“Oh wow – plane tickets! Time to hit the beach”

That might be your first impression at seeing this romantic gift, coming from your new significant other.

With a serious look in their eye, they grab your hands.

“I think you should meet…my parents!I bought tickets to leave for the weekend!”

The filet mignon you just ate feels like a rock in your stomach. “Oh…um…”

Even if the new partner you’ve found is “the one,” please don’t bring the parents to the table too early in the game.

Especially if a visit would incorporate a long plane trip, wherein you have to suffer through security, time differences, and possible schedule conflicts. Unless carefully planned, such a romantic gift would only end in grief/regret/unhappiness.

Slim Fast.

“That was a really great movie.” “I know!” Your special person replies.

It’s late outside and the cool night breeze creates a perfect romantic atmosphere for a romantic gift.

“But you know, I’ve been worrying about something lately. I want you to take a look at this.”

They pop open their trunk and remove a carton of canned beverages. “I found this case of slim fast on sale the other day, and I’d really like you to replace a meal a day with it.”

Please make sure that the first romantic gift you give is positive in tone, and emphasizes a good quality of your new partner.

Self-improvement might come later, if at all. Too many tears have been spilled due to the well-intentioned gifters who have no sense of timing or don’t think about the underlying message behind their gift.

A New Car.

“I had a really great time today!” You’re just exiting the art gallery and feel renewed by the warm sunshine outside.

“Shhh.” Your new partner puts their finger to your mouth. “Wait until you see this.”

They pull out a key, and the shiny BMW behind them lights up with a beep. “Oh, is that your new car?” You ask.

“No baby…it’s a present for you.”

Please don’t try to “buy” your new partner’s interest. Even if your wallet and bank account are stuffed with hard-earned cash, such a display will only overwhelm them. (Unless, of course, they are that special category of person called a gold-digger)

Small, affectionate or even unique romantic gifts are often the most meaningful.

All in all, when giving romantic gifts, remember this:

Don’t give a gift that is designed more to push your agenda than to please your new love. Use your understanding and your empathy to pick something that will truly please the other. After all, isn’t a desire to please what romance is all about?

Here are a few valentine’s day gift ideas:

Sweetheart Chocolate Rose Candy Bouquet

Kama Sutra Honeydust, 8 Ounces

Celebrate your special person with I LOVE YOU red heart frame

Thats Amore! Romantic Dinner For Two – Italian Gourmet Food Gift Basket

I Love You Neon Sign 13 x 32

photo credit: Sara Alfred  photo credit: Dan4th

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How To Buy The Right Size Lingerie

by painterlady

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Valentines Day is soon and Men… you know you want to buy lingerie for their significant other. But… you men listen up! You need to know how to buy the right size lingerie!

And… if you don’t want to go to the mall to figure it out, all the answers are right here.

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Remember you want to buy something for her that she will wear, and she won’t be offended.

An example, she stated to you she does not care for dominatrix lingerie, then don’t buy her dominatrix lingerie.

Ask your lover what she likes or take notice of what type of lingerie she wears on has in her lingerie drawer. Some women do not care for thongs and thus will not wear them. Others will find see through lingerie or mesh lingerie trashy and will wonder, “What were you thinking?”

Take a look inside her closet. Does she wear a tight t-shirt, with tight jeans or a tank top? Then she may like lingerie that is a little tighter, that shows skin.
On the other hand if her closet is filled with loose fitting clothing she may want something more modest.
If you are uncertain a baby doll, camisole with matching panties, or a slip will be your best bet.
Look for items made from silk and satin that flow away from the body with minimal embellishment.
A good idea is to talk to her and ask her to look at catalogs or lingerie pictures to help you know what she will like or dislike.
One of the biggest mistakes men make, is not knowing her size. If you buy something too small she may feel flattered or she may feel fat!
If you purchase an item that is too big, she will feel fat.
Look in her lingerie drawer again and write down size information.
Choose her favorite color purchasing the item. Look in her closet and see what color she favors. Some women like lingerie with tassels on their breasts, some don’t.
Some like ribbon an lace on lingerie. Again look in her lingerie draw for help.
Learn what types of lingerie there is, so you know exactly what you are buying.
Learn what a garter belt, baby doll and slip are.

Everyone makes mistakes, so keep that receipt just in case she wants to return the item. If she says she likes what you bought her, but doesn’t wear it, she doesn’t like it.

Next time you go lingerie shopping, do more snooping in her lingerie drawer and purchase something different. Most of all have fun!

You find find lingerie items here: http://www.BargainMatrixCenter.com M Tyburn, is an author and fashion consultant

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